Some may think being a beautiful women is the epitome of having life on easy mode. You get attention walking into a room, more than enough compliments from men and women on social media, and dozens of matches everytime you open up a dating app.
While that’s fun to explore at first (especially when you’re young and growing into an adolescent), it can really mess with your self worth.
People have expectations of their ideal fantasy projected onto you and somehow your looks are all they see – beyond your thoughts, values, and actual worth.
This is especially true when it comes to dating. For instance, the men that are swiping and liking on your profile – you are one of 50 swipes that day. And if by chance you do go on a date with them – 9/10 of those matches will try to sleep with you within the first 3 dates. And if you think that means they are really into you – know they will drop you the second you tell them you don’t want intimacy.
So what does that say about your value? That your only contribution is your body? Your thoughts are only second as long as your looks are intact? That no one is to be trusted?
Meanwhile, women are no better. Some may be intimidated and some try to knock out your confidence as much as possible by constantly pointing out what you lack because having too much of an ego would be a bad thing.
It’s a constant battle of not knowing who has good intentions, feeling like you are worthless on the inside, and constantly trying not to outshine other women so they don’t harbour negatively towards you.
In the long run, this priviledge of having initial attention can be more of a blocker to what is actually needed – attention to the soul.
